If you want to make sure equality never happens, focus a lot on the things that offend you. If you want to change things, focus on that which actually impacts your life and make effort towards those changes.
I see the internet filled up with endless blogs and tirades against all the millions of ways people get offended, but precious little on how to actually create equality among races, genders, sexuality, belief, etc. Everyone’s so focused on how they want people to refer to them and talk to them that they waste all their energy in those issues.
Income disparity between genders is global. Focus on changing that. Fuck all the “micro-aggressions”. Focus on the stuff that actually affects your life in a truly harmful way. Eradicate those things. Otherwise, nothing will change and you will continue to suffer far more than not being spoken to or about in the way you would prefer.
Fuck all the ways in which you are merely offended. Stand strong through that shit with some inner strength and dignity and don’t let people’s mere insensitivity affect you. Deal with the bones and the meat of the issues, not the makeup or hairdo. In some countries, women have to be covered head to toe and can’t even speak with any man besides their husband. Let’s deal with that shit. Not somebody’s non-PC language.
When I see women, people of color, etc being oppressed by being arrested for their color, paid less for their gender, killed for not obeying some stone-age religious rule and being otherwise truly oppressed, THAT’S what offends me. That’s what we all need to unite against. I will stand by your side and support you wholeheartedly in fixing that shit. I am your brother and ally in fighting those things. However, I’m not going to mollycoddle your ass with PC language and worry about whether or not you are offended. I will fight against that which oppresses you, not what merely offends.
Being the language police is like when the actual police focus on arresting people who carry a little pot or are jaywalking rather than going after murderers and rapists. It’s more of a disservice to your cause to worry about who says what when what’s really hurting you is what people are actually doing.
When I see the horrors that people are enduring in the world, I just can’t bring myself to have sympathy for those that complain about how someone wasn’t specific enough in their language towards someone else. It’s about priorities.
© 2015 William Suphan
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